Updated: Apr 6
21 Ways to Nurture Your Connection
It's not necessary to hike out into the wilderness and jump off a mountain to feel the bliss of soaring with the Divine. While the experience of moment-by-moment connection takes practice and requires the conquering of habits such as clearing out the clutter of your thoughts, it is worth your time and effort because it brings helpful guidance, peace that passes understanding, and contentment into your life.
Check out the 5 sections in this post:
21 Easy Ways to Enhance Your Divine Connection
If you want to create changes in your life at a faster pace Accelerate the Process may be for you.
12 Reasons Why PSYCH-K is my go-to modality
How sessions with D'Arcy Humble enhance your Divine Connection
Be Kind to Yourself...essential advice for anyone embarking on the voyage of life change.
21 Ways to Enhance Your Connection with Divine Guidance
Consider this your invitation to summon your courage and take this challenge: Choose one or more of the 21 ideas below and incorporate them into your daily life for 7 days in a row. Keep track of the difference it makes.
Change your reaction to common, everyday experiences. Recently, I realized that every time the da-da-dit sound from my work computer signaled that I had a new work-related email, my body tensed while my breath held for a couple seconds. With my background as a psychologist, I called on the tenets of classical conditioning to make a rapid change. Each time the da-da-dit sound occurred, I instead viewed it as a signal to stop writing psychological reports, close my eyes, and feel my breath for at least three slow leisurely breaths.
Turn off the volume on your tech devices. I made a decision to take breaks from the constant stream of incoming information. I take these breaks routinely and not just when I am trying to concentrate on something that requires my undivided focus. Consider turning off the sounds that signal any new posts, emails, etc. on all your tech devices for at least one hour per day.
Put the television and devices in a closet. Downtime from entertainment and yes, a certain degree of boredom, are necessary conditions for optimal creativity to emerge while connecting with the Divine. In our house, we have one television, and it is brought out of the closet only when there is something we really want to watch. Consider modeling this action for your children.
Ask for guidance from your Divinely-guided intuition throughout your day. Your intuition is your best and wisest resource, but because of free will, the benevolent Divine Source usually stays out of our lives unless we invite it in. So it is important to start your day before you get out of bed with an invitation to the altruistic Divine Source aka All that Is, Universe, God, Allah, Brahman, Holy Spirit, angels, Higher Soul Self, spirit guides/teachers, angels, and/or loved ones who have transitioned back home. Be sure to verbally set the boundary in the form of a firm declaration that only high vibration energies are allowed in your intuitional space so that you are not bothered by the pesky low vibration energies, such as the spirits of those who roam the earth instead of going into the light. Be sure to make space within your day to receive intuitional guidance, which can come in a variety of ways: in the form of a feeling or knowingness in your gut, thought that is uncharacteristic of your typical stream of thoughts, holographic images, and, less often, as smells and tastes. Experiment with choosing to follow and see what happens even with the most mundane tasks and see what happens. For example, one Saturday morning, I was cleaning the house and my husband said, "I thought you were going to the grocery store." I replied, "I am. Just not yet." I was waiting on the green light from the Divine Source through my intuition. As soon as I felt it was time to leave, I put down the broom and immediately left. Upon entering the produce section of Kroger, I met a family who was instrumental in pointing us in the next right direction so that we could eventually adopt our younger son in China.
While you are driving, turn off electronic devices and allow your thoughts to flow without becoming attached to them. Eckhart Tolle teaches that thinking is not something we do, but rather it is something that happens to us. So thinking occurs as a natural consequence of being a spiritual being having a human experience. The challenge is letting these thoughts flow without becoming attached or invested in them. We tend to believe that these thoughts are who we are, but that is not true. This constant stream of thoughts is only a reflection of the vast amounts of information that is stored in our long-term memory, which is encased in the subconscious mind for the purpose of getting our needs and wants met and preventing death of the body. Being aware of, but not attached to these thoughts helps you become aware of areas in your subconscious programming that you might want to change so that you can change your life for the better. It's sort of like looking through a cluttered closet to see what you want to donate or throw away.
Clear out your mental To-Do List. Clear your present awareness and attention as much as possible from the items that are your responsibility to complete. For me, I find that having lists that are easily added to are helpful. When I'm not near my list, I send myself a text, write it on my hand in ink, or leave an item out as a reminder. That way, I am confident that it will get done, and I can return my attention being in a state of receptivity and alertness to my intuition. In order to not have your days ruled by your To-Do List, set aside a 15 to 30 minute interval in your day to complete items. What does not get done goes on the next list. Then forget about it.
Play a musical instrument. With our society's priorities, the language-based abilities of the left hemisphere of the brain are overutilized, which creates an imbalance. Our brains were designed to utilize both hemispheres in a whole-brained state as they collaborate while exchanging information across the corpus collosum. Strengthening and activating the right hemisphere is achieved when you play an instrument. This can include playing from sheet music or those popular websites that stream the notes visually or even just playing whatever notes come to you.
Garden. Even if it is only in a window box in your apartment, spend time focusing on what is planted while practicing sending and receiving positive energy.
Engage in meditation. Most people have heard of meditation where the goal is to quiet the mind from the incessant stream of thoughts. As mentioned in several items above, the left hemisphere of the brain is used to constantly thinking about something. Therefore, many people grow discouraged and think, "I can't meditate." Other forms of meditation that help accommodate the restless left hemisphere are listed below.
Engage in guided meditation. There are numerous guided meditations available on YouTube, podcasts, etc. Try some out to see which ones resonate with you. Since our society reveres and overutilizes the thinking capabilities of the left hemisphere of the brain, it generally needs something to do, especially when you are first starting a meditation practice. For me personally, replaying inspirational songs in my head serves well to occupy my left hemisphere, and this practice results in physical and emotional benefits. This not only stops the incessant, generally anxious "what-if _____?" thinking, it also helps me to arrive at my destination in a calmer, content mood with much lower blood pressure and heart rate and increased focus and presence.
Engage in active meditation. Active meditation is essentially meditating while you are doing something. Your senses are heightened because the focus of your eyes, ears, nose, and skin is on something external that your senses are experiencing. This is easily incorporated into the typical daily routine, such as when you are taking a shower. Feel each pellet of water connect with your skin. Adjust the temperature. Feel the difference. Smell the shampoo, the conditioner, the soap. Focus your attention on what is in that very moment. One of my favorite active meditations is focusing solely on the smell, taste, and texture of food.
Par down your daily To-Do List. There are things we do everyday that are not necessary. Take them off your list. For example, 18 years ago when I became very ill with a thyroid-related illness, I chose to stop making my bed. I have not made my bed since then. Also, the less stuff you own, the less there is to have to take care of. Get rid of what you don't need or use. Donate it and feel good that someone else who needs it is benefitting from your closet cleaning.
Do not do for your children what they can do for themselves. Teach your children how to do things and expect them to do it. If their responsibilities are undone, let go of saving them from the consequences. Let them own what happens so that they may learn from the outcomes, and thereby become more confident and able to provide for themselves. FYI: this applies to husbands and wives, too!
Set aside time in your household for quiet, with each person choosing what they wish to do: drawing, coloring, painting, reading. Remember: while our children's friends and technology have an effect on their choices and habits, the greatest influence is what they see us doing on a regular basis. There is a 95% chance that what we model - what we actually do in our lives (instead of what we say) - will show up in our children's lives if not now, then later when they are older and have children of their own.
Read. Instead of speed reading, absorb the material. If it's fiction, go on the journey with the characters. Lose yourself in the story. If it is nonfiction, instead of speed reading through it, pause and reflect. Underline. Highlight. Pause and meditate on what comes to you through your intuition. I find that re-reading nonfiction backwards section by section while in a semi-meditative state enhances my absorption and insights of the material.
Pay attention to and engage with your pets free of distractions. Pets are Divine gifts in the form of companion animals. When we play and snuggle with our companions, and they look soulfully and lovingly into our eyes, we are touched by the love of the Divine in this present moment awareness and the natural healing abilities of our bodies are ignited.
Pay attention to and engage with babies free of distractions. In so many ways, babies are still connected with the Divine, free of the burdens of language and a subconscious mind full of do's and don'ts. Joy and peace can be felt just by watching them sleep. Basking in their pureness yields a glimpse of the reward that awaits us when we carve out time in our days to nurture our personal connection with the Divine.
Commune with nature. Communing with nature can be the first and primary way certain people first feel their connection with the Divine. For some, when they merge with nature in appreciation and gratitude, a natural high of connection results. It is this state of communion that singer/song writer John Denver refers to in one of my favorite songs: Rocky Mountain High. I find that walking alone or riding my bike without an IPod creates a wonderful space in which my intuition and Divine guidance flow.
Bathe in a warm bath. Relaxing in a tub of warm water serves to relax our bodies and calm tense muscles (I've found that adding plain Epsom salts or my new favorite - Ancient Minerals Magnesium Bath Flakes - with half a package of Aveeno colloidal oatmeal provides the ideal bath for me). When my children were younger and I needed a Mommy/Wife Timeout to recharge my batteries, this was a favorite go-to. (BTW: Other effective Mommy/Wife timeouts include: taking a walk or riding my bike solo, closing the bedroom door and collapsing face first onto my bed for about 15 minutes, telling my children that my ears hurt and cannot listen for the next 10 minutes, and taking myself out to lunch with a good book). Reflect and consider what your favorite timeouts are...list them below for others to consider...
Play inspiring music and dance freely as your body longs to. One of my favorites for many years now is Melissa Manchester's Through the Eyes of Love and a new favorite song is All Is Found from the movie Frozen 2. What music inspires your body to merge with the Divine? Take time to reflect...what music feels good and resonates with your body?
Set two wake-up alarms. Sleep in if you can. This allows for a nature progression of the delta/theta sleep state brain wave patterns into a theta/alpha brain wave pattern, which is when connecting with the Divine and your intuition is at its most optimal point. On many days, my schedule does not allow for this, so I set two wake-up alarms 30 minutes apart. I turn off the first alarm with a practiced gesture that allows me to keep my eyes closed and commune with the Divine in that wonderful brain wave state. Sometimes, I fall back to sleep and that's okay, too.
Accelerate the Process
You might find yourself thinking, I've tried these things before, but no matter how hard I try, I can't seem to stick with them.
You are not alone. Millions of people are trying to create change in their lives and enhance their connection with the Divine.
For me, a breakthrough arrived into my life when I found out about the 3 levels of the mind and how each one factors into our daily experience by helping or hindering our thoughts, choices, emotions, and behaviors...and our connection with the Divine.
First, there is the energetic form of us defined by psychologist Carl Jung as the superconscious that provides life to the body and is always connected to the Divine Source. It is referred to by people in many names such as Higher Self, Soul Self, Inner Wisdom, Holy Spirit, Eternal Self, Atman...it is the part of us that has a direct line to our Divine life path and the purpose of this lifetime.
Second is our conscious mind. We are all well aware of the constant stream of thoughts in our conscious minds. This is where our enthusiastic, I've-got-this-all-figured-out plans originate. With ebullient certainty we are convinced that this time the intended plan will work because of added amounts of determination and willpower....yet, all of us can reflect back on many years of failed New Year's Resolutions and the disappointing fact that willpower only works in the short-term because it's only a matter of time until...the third aspect of our mind, the subconscioius mind, regains control over our lives.
No matter how much your conscious mind wants a better connection with your Divine intuition, it is your subconscious mind that rules your thoughts, choices, feelings, and behaviors at least 95% of your day and this effects your ability to connect with the Divine.
How does the subconscious mind do that? Why does it do that?
The short answer is that the subconscious mind exists to serve us with getting our needs/wants met and to protect us. Without the subconscious mind, where long-term memory resides, we would not last long on this planet. (For more information about this, see YouTube videos created by Dr. Bruce Lipton and Rob Williams).
Science tells us that our conscious minds, the part of us that we are most familiar with, is a slow processor of information...some of us would disagree because it seems to us as if we process information quickly compared to other people. But we are mistaken.
Our conscious mind processes information at a rate of 40 bits per second, which may not seem so slow...until it goes up against the lightning fast 40 million bits per second subconscious mind processor.
Essentially, our conscious minds are busy making plans while our subconscious minds are running our lives.
You doubt this? I did, too, until I decided to keep track of my thoughts and behaviors for a couple days. I found myself wondering, "Why am I thinking these thoughts? They're just intruding on the plans I'm making with my conscious mind and they're not at all helpful."
This was most apparent during stressful parenting moments. I would find myself saying the very thing my parents used to say to me when I was a kid despite me having sworn that I would never say those things to my own children!
Then Dr. Bruce Lipton, Rob Williams, and PSYCH-K entered my life. I found out that it is possible to accelerate the process of changing the content of my subconscious mind and to change those long held, life-limiting beliefs into life-enhancing beliefs, which then nurture and strengthen my connection with the Divine Source.
Because of PSYCH-K, I now live a life free of much of the old, limiting baggage that was previously recorded and being replayed constantly in my subconscious mind. While issues arise, as is the case in all our lifetimes, now I easily replace these life-limiting narratives into lasting live-enhancing beliefs, thoughts, and emotions.
While there are many transformative and/or subconscious belief change modalities available, I chose PSYCH-K® as my go-to for 12 reasons:
(1) It is, by nature, a sacred, spiritual process. All change occurs only in conjunction with permission/guidance from the Divine Source; therefore, completing PSYCH-K processes ensure that the changes are in the best and highest good of each person.
(2) The process allows for Divine guidance, which is enhanced when the PSYCH-K facilitator has psychic mediumship abilities. Due to my having nurtured my connection with the Divine Source for over 23 years, my psychic mediumship abilities are a part of my everyday life and Divine information naturally flows into the sessions.
(3) Whenever Divine guidance arrives, I check in with clients to see if it resonates with their intuition and what they want lifetime. Then, PSYCH-K processes provide a quick resolution and alignment with each individual's chosen lifepath.
(4) The processes provide quick transformation at the subconscious level in areas such as belief statements, emotions, past trauma or stressful situations, and relationship repair. I am highly efficient with PSYCH-K processes due to having facilitated thousands of them. (5) Having PSYCH-K in my life provides the ability for me to quickly change whatever is not working within my own life within minutes.
(6) Change in the contents of the subconscious mind = New experience of life.
(7) PSYCH-K provides me with the ability to facilitate desired changes for others in a "do with" modality as opposed to a "do to" process, which tends to be common in other modalities.
(8) Sessions are designed to empower each individual as opposed to creating dependence upon me or the therapeutic process.
(9) Sessions are compatible with and can enhance religious-related experiences.
(10) PSYCH-K is a world-wide phenomenon that has a proven track record for over 30 years.
(11) PSYCH-K is endorsed by Dr. Bruce Lipton, cellular biologist.
(12) The changes in the brain due to PSYCH-K processes have been proven with brain scans conducted by Dr. Jeffrey Fannin, psychologist and neuroscientist.
Enhance Your Connection: Spiritual Mentoring/Coaching
Another way to accelerate the process of enhancing your connection with the Divine Source is to seek out a spiritual mentor/coach who:
has experienced a wide array of Spiritually Transformative Experiences (STEs such as, but not limited to, Near Death Experience, Shared Death Experience, mediumship aka communication with departed loved ones, psychic phenomena)
has psychic mediumship abilities within the context of a strong connection to the high vibration aspects of the Divine
is well-grounded with an educational background and experience in providing counseling or therapy.
That's me. You get all of that through sessions with D'Arcy.
Part of my lifepath is providing others with this spiritual mentoring/coaching with a background as a Licensed Educational Psychologist. In both roles, the transformation of life-limiting beliefs into life-enhancing beliefs with PSYCH-K is an essential part of the sacred, spiritual process.
If you are seeking what I have to offer, it is likely due to your Higher Soul Self calling you to strengthen your connection with the Divine. What you are experiencing is a calling within the context of, as Jesuit Priest Pierre Tielhard de Chardin is quoted as saying: We are spiritual beings who are having a human experience.
It's easier to find your way when there is someone walking alongside you who has already traveled the road you are on...someone who has vast knowledge and experience on that road...someone who recognizes and respects that your path is unique to you...someone who seeks to empower you in connecting with your own Inner Wisdom...someone who is humble and steps aside so that Divine guidance flows through her to the benefit of the spiritual seeker.
That's me. You get all of that through sessions with D'Arcy Humble.
If you are interested in sessions with me, you might want to check out other Blog posts and the various areas of this website to get a feel of whether or not this resonates with you. As always, I respect your intuitional guidance and all choices you make in your life.
Be Kind to Yourself
When people set out to change quickly with the battle cry of "I've decided I am going to start an exercise program!" or some other goal, they are often soon disappointed. Self-defeating thoughts hammer away, beating them up when their performance falls short of their expectations.
Like any muscle in the body, new habits require practice. As we all know from trying to change habits with willpower and other standard conventional methods, a lot of practice will be required and not reaching our goals right away tends to be the rule and not the exception.
The most important thing is that you are being kind to yourself while you are striving to bring new changes into your life. Speak kindly to yourself. Encourage yourself with kind thoughts such as, "This is harder than I thought it would be, but I am proud of myself for my efforts." Begin aligning your thinking with a growth mindset and leave the fixed mindset behind. Reward yourself not based on results, but instead on your efforts.
Invest in yourself and consider learning a modality that accelerates the learning curve or, if it is life-long habit such as an eating disorder, smoking, alcohol overuse, etc., consider attending groups designed to help, therapy, or sessions with someone who can provide services such as PSYCH-K that include efficient subconscious mind self-limiting belief change and healing of emotions and past traumas.
Choose Your Spiritual Connection
For the life I lead now, it is from the viewpoint of the path I've traveled and the one I continue on that I suggest that you choose to make your connection with the Divine intuitional guidance a priority in your life. This ever-evolving choice creates enhanced levels of Divine guidance, experiences of peace that passes understanding, and positive differences in your life and the lives of those who reside in your circle of influence.
I would love to hear what works best for you in your goal of connecting with the Divine and strengthening your intuition. Which ones do you do now? What tweaks have you made to the ones on the list that you have found to be benefical?
Please let us know by responding to this post so that we all may benefit from the wisdom and ideas you share...
In Divine Love and Light,